"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of human kind as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure, or it is nothing at all." --Helen Keller

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Solace & Perspective

OK, so here's scant solace and a bit of adult sobering perspective, like it or not.

Our loss on the gay marriage equality issue was politics, pure and simple. The opponents (a.k.a., the church), knew this and kept Michael Heath at bay and hired a skillful PR agency that played as dirty as required to do the job. This was brute force politics on their side, nothing especially nuanced, a page out of the Karl Rove playbook.

We played skillfully, as well, albeit differently. Our strategy was a calculated risk; we could have gotten really clobbered. Still, we lost, by about 5% or approximately 30,000 votes. While that's not a razor thin margin, it is not a political mandate for bigotry either.

And our No On One supporters got it; they understood the basic humanity and the deep, abiding, achingly simple issue of fundamental equality. We didn't have to cloak the truth in some gussied-up, jingoistic, flag-waving, fire & brimstone pablum.

Fear and ignorance and blind religious moral superiority may have won the day, but not by a wide margin this time around. In most any other state, or even 10 years ago here, it wouldn't have even been this close. 47% of voting Mainers got the basic equality message. So we can't paint Maine or Mainers with broad black strokes either.

And it is too easy to now just say, "We lost." Life is always more complex than that. Whether we want to admit it or not, the empirical truth is that what we did was absolutely necessary to push the envelope as far as it would go for now. Maybe it wasn't ready to be stretched quite far enough, yet. Maybe next time it will be.

We still moved mountains and raised the individual and collective consciousness of more people than we will ever know. We did what we were supposed to do. We stood on the shoulders of others to get this far and others will stand on ours.

40 years ago, there were bands of white supremacists (KKK) and church leaders who "won" the day against black civil rights leaders. Now they are forever cast in the pall of shame and infamy. Racism is still alive and well, but now we also have a black president of this United States. Complex? Yes. Perfect? No. Progress? Absolutely.

So let's catch our breath, regroup and get back to work. We only have the luxury of feeling crushed for a short time. We still have a world to change and children to protect.

It will be my privilege to do this work, for its own sake, alongside all other Quixotic citizen activists.

The secret is, no matter what, we really can't lose. We will succeed in changing the world, one heart at a time.

Ultimately, truth will out.

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Wednesday, November 4, 2009

Maine Marriage Inequality

I am greatly disappointed after last night's outcome, but also enormously encouraged by all we accomplished in these last several months. Of course I wanted to win this referendum, but that is not the sole reason I joined this fight and gave freely and gladly of my time and resources.

Without trying to sound pathetically Pollyanna about this, while I wish the outcome was different, I have known from the start that there really was no way we could truly lose. We have changed the world and made it a bit more perfect, as painfully imperfect as it still is and will be.

And I met so many heroes in the process. I am humbled and astounded by all that I have witnessed first hand.

I do not mean to invoke grand names trivially, but I do believe that there is a bit of the Gandhi and Martin Luther King, Jr. in all of us, particularly in our resilience. This was a heartbreaking defeat and many people are feeling deeply hurt and discouraged today, to have hate, fear and irrationality win the day. But imagine what it was like to have had guns and dogs and fists turned against you time and again. Imagine having to go on for another day and yet another day as people you love are being brutalized, physically and emotionally. The human spirit is extraordinary.

The question now becomes where do we go from here to capitalize on all we have accomplished, all we have created. The answer, in part for me, is not to turn away in disgust and anger, but to embrace even more fully all those whose hearts and minds still need to be changed.

This is the hardest part of all, I think, so I remember that we don’t have to change everyone’s heart or mind, just about, for instance, 30,000 more in the state of Maine. And I know we have done that in many multiples already both here and throughout the country and beyond.

What we have done is already rippling and resonating farther and wider than we can comprehend from our present vantage.

This has all been extraordinarily important and necessary work and it will continue to pay exponential dividends with time. It is all necessary effort in the grand scheme of social justice and civil rights. It is also all necessary just because it allows us to affirm our humanity and our community.

Also, I realize that the church and others will have their own fallout from their "success" as it is revealed in the full light of day. We can leave them to the natural flow of things and to their own conflicted and angry congregants. Hatred and corruption corrodes from within and causes irreparable damage.

I start today knowing that gay people and their families are as much respected and loved as ever in the eyes of the greater community, and probably even more so after these several months of marriage equality work.

We still have much work to do. I wish this marriage equality battle in Maine had been won so we could move on to the next frontier. In any event, I will catch my breath, pull my friends and compatriots close, and steel my resolve to continue this effort. And I will know there is no “losing” now or in the long run if we speak our truth.

We will continue to make progress.

Dr. King inspires me at moments like this and one of my favorite quotes that came to mind immediately last night when all seemed lost was this, his words from a 1967 speech which you may have heard before:

When our days become dreary with low hovering clouds of despair, and when our nights become darker than a thousand midnights, let us remember that there is a creative force in this universe, working to pull down the gigantic mountains of evil, a power that is able to make a way out of no way and transform dark yesterdays into bright tomorrows. Let us realize the arc of the moral universe is long but it bends toward justice.

I say this as much as a reminder to myself as to everyone in our community: Keep the faith.

Saturday, June 13, 2009

We Haven't Hit Bottom Yet...

My brother Gary sent me a copy of David Brooks' Op-Ed column from yesterday's NY Times titled The Great Unwinding. It got me thinking about where we are in this economic stage of things, which I have opined on before in early blog postings, from last year, with a modicum of prescience. So, I have awakened from my blogging slumber so I could think aloud about what Brooks wrote and where we are at the moment, economically speaking. And here's what I wrote back to Gary:

Interesting article. Got me thinking...

So, I'm no economist (obviously!), but there are a few flaws in Brooks' suppositions and there are also some interesting counter-arguments.

For instance, capital is at an historically low cost these days. That's why your savings account at the bank only pays about 1.0% interest, if that. The government has kept capital cheap to keep the meager flow going and to catalyze some assumed critical markets. The upshot is that people will not save as much because:

(1.) People can buy stuff and the cost is "subsidized" by cheap capital. That's how the housing market ballooned into a bubble in terms of pricing, borrowing, and expectations. We now all believe that a home will and should cost many, many multiples of our household incomes. A generation ago, this was not the case. Our mom and dad bought our childhood home in 1962 for about $20,000.

(2.) The "normal" prices for certain necessities, like housing and cars, are now set way outside the reach of the vast majority of cash buyers. Borrowing for these things with only 20% down is our expected norm. Households, therefore, will always have much higher debt to income ratios compared to 20 - 50 years ago.

(3.) Borrowing is not always a bad thing if the cost of the capital is reasonable, you can afford the debt service payments, and you have both a reasonably secure income stream to support the payments and a back-up plan (known as an "exit strategy") if things don't go well.

Also, there are some other things to consider, such as the fact that while it might be mind-blowingly expensive to overhaul the US healthcare system into something that is accessible, affordable and technologically advanced, the comparative cost of not doing so is probably about the same in terms of picking up the expense of taking care of the non and under-insureds, not to mention the lost opportunities and drag caused by people making life and job decisions based on their lack of healthcare insurance options. Or the actual physical pain we inflict on the under-treated and non-treated.

We'll spend close to $1 trillion bailing out the financial sector, $500+ billion on waging wars in Iraq and Afghanistan to protect our security, and $300+ billion to stabilize some of the automobile industry. What would $1 trillion buy us in terms of healthcare and the net effect on individuals' families, lives and long-term health?

Political expediency and an inherent misalignment between long-term needs and short-term practicalities is set in our electoral system. As long as our federal legislators, congressmen, senators, and president, are stuck in a 2, 4 & 6 year election cycle, they will only be able to do so much that might seem like it is going to cause near-term challenges and pain to their constituencies. The brief window of opportunity to do anything that trades near-term pain for long-term gain is only at the very front end of a politician's term.

This problem is intrinsic and institutionalized in a democratic process, but to paraphrase Churchill, Democracy is a terrible form of government, but it is still better than any of the other options. So it is easy to point out the problem, but the reality is that legislators, on the whole, are not going to change strategies or behaviors as long as they need to get elected or help a party-affiliated candidate get elected.

It will take an "exogenous shock" to the overall entrenched system to get people to sacrifice in the short term or change their entrenched consumer perspectives. So, a war, natural disaster, terrorist attack, true pandemic, prolonged recession, sustained spike in oil prices, etc. will be outside anyone's control and will force the issues and changes in behavior. The current recession is causing some of the ills and evils to be faced in the light of day, to the dismay of piggish banks, over-extended homeowners, and charlatans like Bernie Madoff. Good people are also hurt in the cleanout (middle-class employed workers in fragile sectors, kids, some home renters, sick folks, lower-income households, etc.).

My opinion is that, as a country, we have not experienced anywhere near the pain and structural upending that will come at the true day of reckoning for the binge that was advocated in the last decade or more.

And we live in a new information and consumer world that did not exist a decade ago (think internet news, Facebook, Amazon, iTunes, and app stores). The speed has been ratcheted up exponentially and the consumer decision-making has followed suit. This means that any economic news or shock or fear spreads globally as fast as it can be reported. We've built some huge momentum. So, trying to slow down this train before its hits a bad patch of rail may be futile.

On a personal level, however, you can prepare for what may come. It's the same simple advice that's become cliche: Don't live above your means. Keep some rainy day funds available. Live a healthy lifestyle in terms of sleep, eating and exercise.

And you may even be able to take advantage of some opportunities. There are some excellent investment and real estate opportunities out there, and if they fit in with your lifestyle and your financial means, you can take advantage of them. And remember that sometimes circumstances align to make debt not necessarily a bad thing, so you have leverage power for these opportunities, if you can afford it, especially while the cost of capital is so low.

So what's the bottom-line?

In my view, we haven't hit bottom yet and all of the extraordinary efforts by the Treasury Dept, and Obama Administration have just been pumping up the economy to soften the immediate blow. It is an economic experiment with a very uncertain outcome. And until the markets reset at sustainable price levels, and until there are some major systemic failures that cause us to bear the pain that will be needed to adjust our financial, personal and political expectations, the day or reckoning is still yet to come

Set your expectations accordingly.

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Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Time of Hope

As of noon EST yesterday, Barak Obama is President of the United States.

Wow.

A resurgence of hope has swept across and settled on the country, even around other parts of the world.

If this improbable thing can actually happen, what else is possible?

In the moment that Barak Obama became the 44th U.S. President, we were able to bear witness that there are times when hope, tolerance, decency and courage have prevailed.

And yes, we do still have so far to go on this journey, but our souls and hearts have been nourished. Maybe we can disrobe of some of the sticky cynicism that we have accumulated and believe again in the power of community and love and justice.

It's all around us.




...Don't ask how long the honeymoon will last. Rather, ask how you can continue to believe, pass it along, and pay it forward.

It is a long journey on a difficult road filled with much joy and many heartbreaks. So let's savor the crystalline moments and fortify ourselves and our commitment to sustaining our advance towards what is right and good in ourselves, in one another and in our world community.

Monday, December 22, 2008

Winter's Here!

Winter officially started yesterday and it arrived with a wallop! A real nor'easter hit us yesterday with blizzard conditions for most of the day and night. It was an impressive storm, even for folks who shrug off most snowstorms up in these parts. We got about 15-18 inches of snow in the Portland area, with drifts of several feet in some places!

I awoke this morning and, after the sun was up, assessed the collateral damage. ...Nothing too bad. Just LOTS of snow. The snowplows, which are very efficient, even on Peaks Island, had the roads plowed and passable even before sunrise, but they pushed a wall of snow five feet high onto my front walkway all the way up to my front stairs! And there was at least of foot of snow also on my front deck. It took me an hour just to shovel out my front walkway and front deck.

I'll have to tackle the back of my house tomorrow or later in the week. Whew!

Here's a quick photo slideshow of some of the photos I took with my iPhone this morning.



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Saturday, November 1, 2008

Peaks Halloween 2008

An injured Tom Brady and his duo of private "naughty" nurses made it to Peaks Island last night for our Halloween celebration. After giving out lots of chocolate to the trick-or-treaters, Kristen, Sabrina and I got into our get-ups. We were joined by Kyra who sported her 70's-ABBA-Priscilla-Queen-Of-The-Desert drag costume. We made quite a "team," my buxomly bodacious nurses and me!



Kristen hand-painted my helmet, including the Patriots logo, and borrowed a walking cast for my "injured" leg/knee. The shoulder pads were key to the authenticity and the mini-football ("to make you look bigger," according to Kristen) added a nice extra touch. The naughty nurses wore go-go boots and huge platform shoes, plus carried stethoscopes.

After a few cocktails at Kristen's, we went to The Pub and joined others who were in the island Halloween spirit. We were a big hit from the moment we walked in and I even won a Shipyard Brewing long-sleeve Pumpkinhead Ale tee-shirt! Halloween Jell-o shots were served and we refrained from bobbing from apples in the huge vat provided.

We may be a little island, but we know how to have big fun!


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Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Birthday Weekend

A bunch of friends gathered at the Beal's camp on Squam Lake in New Hampshire this past weekend to celebrate Alex's partner Brian's big 40th birthday on Saturday. Squam Lake is where the movie On Golden Pond was filmed and it was even more of a jewel with the autumn colors framing the setting.

We had a very fun time together, eating extraordinarily well thanks primarily to the amazing Alex Beal and his non-stop cooking for the crowd. Chicken, grilled steaks, chowder, salads, roasted potatoes, sauteed summer squash, roasted acorn squash, stuffed challah french toast, egg casserole, and even homemade carrot cakes (yes, that's plural, cakes) kept everyone incredibly well-fed. It was all made with an extra helping of love as Alex planned and orchestrated it to make this a special weekend for Brian.

Brian was surprised by his best friend Mark's arrival (along with Jeremy, Mark's bf) late on Friday night from Los Angeles. Brian was almost speechless. And other surprises included a gorgeous custom-made scrapbook that was assembled with pages from each of his friends. Brian invoked the spirit of mahalo to share with us how grateful he was that we were sharing this time with him.

We all went on a short hike on Saturday to the top of Rattlesnake Mountain where the views of Squam Lake were gorgeous. We got this hike in before the weather changed and the heavy rains arrived. We spent Saturday night drinking cocktails and playing a fun party game called "Celebrity." (Who the heck actually knows that Sarah Chalk was the second Becky on the TV show Roseanne??!?)

Sunday was also my birthday and Derek's birthday! So we had two more birthday cakes at lunch!! Good thing that as we had to go our separate ways on Sunday afternoon, that Dan, Peter, James and I did our own longer hike up to the top of Mount Morgan. Sunday's weather was near perfect for autumn with bright, sunny skies. And our hike was more challenging up the steeper trail. We worked off a fraction of the birthday cakes, cookies, and other weekend goodies-- and the view from the summit was truly astounding. ( You can judge for yourself from the photos.)




What a great birthday weekend for all of us! A big mahalo to Alex and Brian and the whole wonderful group of guys. It's going to be a very good year...


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Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Autumn Hiking up Speckled Mountain

Dan Pelletier and I went on an absolutely spectacular hike on Sunday up Speckled Mountain in New Hampshire's White Mountains (Evans Notch) and it was a near perfect autumn day-- cool enough to be comfortable when we were working harder on the steep sections and warm in the sun so we could just wear a light fleece vest or jacket.

And the fall colors, even though they were a bit past peak, were astounding under the brilliant blue cloudless skies. Plus, we mostly had the whole trail to ourselves for the entire hike, passing just a few other contented souls.

The leaves rustled under our feet with every step as we made our way along the 4.1 mile hike to the summit and back down again. The view from the top was extraordinary, with the peaks in Maine (like Sunday River) and New Hampshire (Mt. Washington and the Presidentials) in clear view all around us.

A pair of Canadian Jays kept us company at the summit and seemed used to human visitors as they flee around to check us out and see if we had brought any goodies to share.

The fall colors, although a bit past their peak, were still astounding. And as the light changed in the late afternoon, the forest took on an even deeper, more penetrating vibrancy.

It was an amazing hike and an amazing day! Here's a slideshow of many of the photos from our hike.



And here's a little video clip I took from the summit.

Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween! From David, Kai, and (especially) BOO!



Wednesday, October 8, 2008

The Obama Hula

You know, Barak Obama is from Hawaii and I lived there too from 1997 - 2000. Here's some rare footage of the two of us doing a hula that tells a political allegory through this ancient dance.

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